Wednesday, August 3, 2011

He stole my phone!

This country is not my own. I feel very disconnected from it.


It rained yesterday afternoon, well, it poured and I got caught in it. I was on my way back to the house to find my phone. The rain pelted me and seemed to change it’s direction every minute or so. At first the air around me was warm and soft. The rain felt good on my bare arms. My shirt and skirt were getting soaked and my feet were beginning to slide in my sandals. But it felt so good. When I turned on the road to our house, the rain came in sideways and the air suddenly got colder, I hurried my pace knowing in a few seconds I would be inside and out of the capricious weather. It continued to rain for more than an hour. The streets had become mudways and their potholes red soup. I was unsuccessful finding my phone. It was a brand new one. My previous pal had been stolen at the Agricultural Fair in Jinja (as had Lyndsay’s and Claire’s). I think we were targeted, just a guess. I had immediately replaced it. This is unfortunately a lifeline to my boyfriend and my parents. When I tried to call my phone from Lyndsay’s, I had a sinking dread that it would be turned off. It was. And then it hit me. The sequence of events came flooding back and my stomach flew into my throat and my heart dropped to the floor. When I was walking through the market, less than 30m from the restaurant, a man bumped into me. I had on my backpack and he just sort of ran into me, like he didn’t see me or something. We made eye contact and he turned and walked quickly away. He stole my phone.


I’ve said this once and I will say it again, karma is a silent and sometimes painfully swift avenger. I hope that whatever bad luck befalls him, whatever truly unfortunate event finds him, I wish that he correlates the theft and his misfortune. As I said on my facebook, the man is going to fall into his pit latrine today, and I hope he has my phone in his back pocket. The last kicker is that I had just bought a significant amount of credit and registered it on my phone to be used that day, to call Omar and his family to pay my condolences for an Uncle who had recently passed away. That has to count for double karma, right?

This morning I made my way to the restaurant through the market. I went the same route, determined not to be caught off-guard if my assailant decided to strike again, or better yet, I could find and identify him and then explain to the mob of angry citizens that all of a sudden appear to my aid, that this man stole my phone and I saw him push an old lady down (or something equally terrible!). The walkways were covered in mud and drowned out pieces of trash and plastic. I picked my way slowly to avoid the slickest of areas and worst puddles of wet refuse. The road before the market is in a bad state of erosion, at times the shoulder comes close to a foot or so difference in height. Motorcycles (motos in Morocco or Bota-botas in Uganda) are taking people back and forth, bicycles slowly make their way past and an occasional car or truck dominate the better part of the blacktop. Women walk barefoot past, carefully balancing a load of food or goods on their heads. Kids with torn clothing and dirt smeared on their arms and faces continue on to their destinations, home or school or to possibly sell empty plastic bottles by the gas station. Men are outside working, fixing, repairing goods like trucks and cars, banging out dents in old oil drums, welding together window grates and doors. Small tiny food stands are preparing for their day, their smoke and smells reaching my empty, fasting nose and belly, their broken umbrellas doing little but to protect them from the near constant drizzle of the morning. I walk past men repairing old bikes and painting them a beautiful shade of blue. I keep my head high but avoid eye contact, something I learned in Morocco. I do not wish to have a conversation or to buy anything or to show any interest in anything except to be aware of my surroundings and pick my way through, avoiding the path of the other half coming towards me. I pass by a huge assortment but rarely any diversity in shoes. Shoes as far as the eye can see. Some are on display on small thigh-high tables, others are kept in large, plastic rusacks. These shoes are also individually wrapped in shiny, loud plastic. Most all of these shoes are plastic foam sandals. Colors are the only variation besides size, dark blue, baby pink, yellow-green, red, and black. These sandals do not need to fit you if you take any obvious hint from the people passing by, nor are there any gender colors like pink for girls and blue for boys. A large man could easily and acceptably be seen walking past wearing a baby pink shoe two sizes too small for him, his giant toes reaching out the front like ant feelers. We would instantly reel back in disgust, easily putting together that this man had no disregard for his daughter’s feet and their journey to school today! And then following behind the giant man, is a younger version of himself, we guess she is female because of her skirt, but her head is shaved and her features ambiguous. She is wearing large blue sandals, her toes squished to the front, the back heel wide open, slashing mud onto the backs of her legs. Eh.


Next I pass through store after store, my eyes becoming blurry with déjà vu. Each store looks exactly the same save the proprietor. Each store has 7-8 russacks out front, carrying various beans, flour and rice. The inside halted by a wide counter with a scale perched on top, behind are shelves lined with various but somewhat unrelated goods like Vaseline and hair brushes. I finally burst from that scene to a muddy tarmac somewhat organized with taxis (mututus in Uganda) being unloaded and loaded with people, goods, and your occasional upside down chicken. Chickens travel well upside down. I was told that they get disoriented and calm. I would too if I had never seen the world upside down, possibly the last way I would see the world until my quick death. How interesting…. Anyways, once I finagle my way around gentlemen trying to convince me to go to villages I have never heard of, I am on the home stretch. Much like during a marathon, I imagine, because I have never actually ran one, that the very end you become somewhat delirious in your pursuit of the finish line. Bright and beautiful colors flashing by your strides getting longer and your breathing labored. I don’t exactly breathe laboriously but I’ve caught myself one or two times making little happy humming noises. This last hallway of stores are mostly owned by Indians. They sell beautiful, shiny, patterned bolts of cloth. They have a number of models on display lining the entrance to the storefront, a matching solid sash of cloth wrapped around her middle, giving the models a more feminine shape. They are faceless, not much more than a T shaped stand, but I can imagine myself in each outfit and fabric, dancing in the mud through the market, my arms open wide as I serenade each shopkeeper with my lyrics about love lost and life lived... Not.


Finally, after crossing another street I am under the Suki Hotel building. Stores selling more cloth, a barren pharmacy, and a supermarket are located on the ground floor, and rooms and apartments are available on the second and third floors. And what? A delicious and delightful restaurant and bar that serves an array of Ugandan and Indian favorites paired with local beers?! Trivia played on Thursday nights! Sunday and Monday nights movies start at 8pm with free popcorn?! With a really cool American that has lived outside of America for 2 ½ years (who’s counting?!) that is observing Ramadan and possibly facing some serious issues of culture shock (from Morocco AND America). Hello! What a cool person! What a cool place! I wish I could be there every day from like 9 until 8pm, that sounds so awesome.

Scraped Knees and Tears (of laughter)



This past Sunday, the 31st, at Musana, we had a fun birthday party for our manager, Haril, with everyone surprising him first, then by celebrating; eating cake and having sodas and singing a big Happy Birthday! Lyndsay did a great job baking three Funfetti box cakes back to back and icing them each. They turned out quiet lovely! And no one got hurt… well yet.



Brenda Down for the Count

Brenda Splenda is another volunteer at Musana. She is awesome. She hails from the almight Colorado and from a large family of girls where she was the baby. Her five older sisters taught her the ropes and put gum in her hair to excuse a new haircut from time to time. She seemed to have turned out pretty darn well. She recently decided to change her flight from October to December. Quite commendable. So she, Gala and I are going to be together for the winter (or wet season?)! I feel really lucky that she is here.

Andrea, Brenda and I decided that it would be best to have all the girls together for activities and recapping the previous week but then splitting up for small group discussion.


Girls’ Group:

Introduction:
What did we discuss last week? What were some of the lessons learned? How was your week here at Musana? Did you have to trust someone this week or did someone have to trust you? How did you feel?

Activities:

(These activites I pulled from numerous resources but mostly from my manual Team Building and Leadership Activites that I created during my Peace Corps service.)

Peek-A-Who?!

Chair Swap (with our old Happy Birthday plates as markers) Brenda is somehow bullied by a tangle of brown arms and legs and falls somewhat gracefully to the ground in her brown dress. She also lost her paper plate and was demoralized into the middle.

Claps About It

Small Discussion Groups and Journal Time


I had wanted to tie in our discussion topics with the previous weeks subject on trust. I am not as aware of the situations and problems that the girls deal with on a weekly basis seeing that my current position requires my presence at the restaurant for the better part of daylight hours (and some evenings). I was caught off-guard and my lack of preparation beforehand is not to be lauded. We split the girls into three groups; I took the youngest, four 12-year olds, Brenda took six of the 13 year olds and Andrea took the oldest and most mature of the girls, a mix of one 13 year-old, three 14 year olds and one 15 year old. They all had the same situations and problems to discuss:
1. Situation: Sarah is friends with Betty and Mariam. Mariam is having problems with Betty and comes to Sarah to talk about them. Sarah feels bad and uncomfortable when Mariam talks to her about Betty.
Why does Sarah feel this way?
What should Sarah tell or advise to Mariam?
What should Sarah do?
Have you ever been put in a similar situation? What did you do? How did it make you feel?
2. Think of one person you trust. Can you tell them anything and everything? How do they make you feel? Why are they trustworthy friends? Do they just listen to you or do they advise you too?
3. Have you or anyone you know ever had a secret? Did you keep it? Did you tell anyone? Was it hard to keep that secret? When should you tell someone’s secret and to whom?
After we had discussed each situation and problem, we gave out a journal and pen to each of the girls. We asked that the girls write in the journals anything they wanted: tell about when you came to Musana, what happened this past week, what do you want to do in the next ten years, how do you feel today, etc., These journals are the girls’ only. We will never breach that trust. The journals will stay in Andrea’s office and she let the girls know that if they ever need or want to write in them, they are free to.


I was pleasantly surprised when I went to check on the groups and found that Andrea’s older group was still much in discussion after ore than a half hour. My younger group was finishing up their journal entries already. I will have to tweak our activites and discussion so that each group is given plenty of time to talk about these subjects and the other groups are not bored. I will compile a list of easy activities for us to do once we are finished journaling. My only hesitation is that I want to avoid their haste in completion of their journals to go on to a crafts project or something likewise.

Super Sunday at Musana


On Sunday, we had a great day at Musana Children’s Home. Inspired throughout my life by my lovely sister Becca, and my mom especially, to Reduce, Reuse and Recycle, I collected numerous water bottles my fellow housemates had used and discarded to be used as Plant Catchers. I had cut these large 1.5 and 500mL bottles in half, originally using the bottoms for another project: My Big Healthy Example Teeth. The bottoms of the bottles look exactly like molars once painted. I used another 20 or so to hold bottle caps we had collected from the Sol Café. I divided these caps up into their respective makes, Coca Cola, Pepsi, Mirinda and Fanta, Nile Gold and Club beers. These I will use later to delve into some more artistic expression. So I had a lot of top-half empty water bottles… oh what to do!



Plant Catchers:
Overturned and with careful placement of a good sized rock (something my mom used to do with her planters) to prevent the flow of soil and nutrients out when watered, we could make and hang these new lovely planters!

First, we had cut the bottles and made two holes opposite at the top where the string would be strung to be hung. Then, we had all the kids go and fetch appropriate sized rocks. This was all too easy, with numerous rocks of all shapes and sizes right outside the pavilion. The unexpected cacophony that resulted next was a bit difficult to drown out once they had these new music-making devices in hand. Luckily, we got them calmed down and distributed string and beads to be tied at the ends around the neck of the bottle and would hang off and dance in the breeze. We also distributed foam stickers that the kids carefully placed around the outside of the bottles. With the addition of their names, some soil, and a number of wildflower seeds (bought and brought from the US : / ? ) we had over 80 amazing plant catchers! Despite a few spills and thrills, the bottles these were hung outside the pavilion in clusters of 8-9. They look great and the kids loved doing them. Afterwards, they were pointing out to volunteers which bottle was theirs with nothing but pride and a sense of accomplishment. Easy enough if you ask me.



Girls’ Group
While the Plant Catchers environmental craft project was going, Andrea and I had our first girls’ group meeting. I had originally proposed this idea to Andrea and Sally when I first got here (a month ago in two days!). I really wanted to take and combine my previous work experiences and make a girls’ group to talk about healthy lifestyles and choices, personal growth, and developing a skillset to become healthy, productive and hopefully, independent women. Like I can’t praise them enough, my work throughout the years at the YMCA has really pulled through at the most random times. Now, I am using my work as a Y Teen Coordinator, teambuilding and managing to do activities and games with the girls. When we had started the Plant Catchers project, in order to get the kids calm and quiet, I used one of the easy crowd controllers, “If you can hear my voice, tap your head… If you can hear my voice, touch your nose…” without having to raise my voice once. Having taken a 3 day HIV/AIDS workshop with Peace Corps and using their LifeSkills Manual here, we are going to slowly move this group into talking and discussing some more serious issues they will be faced with as they grow into adulthood.